What To Text Your Ex Boyfriend
Knowing what to text your ex boyfriend after a breakup can be a frustrating and extremely stressful situation. Say the right things and there’s a good chance the relationship can heal over time. Say the wrong things and the relationship can be over for good in the blink of an eye.
When deciding what to text your ex boyfriend, it’s important to realize there’s no “magic bullet” text that is the perfect combination of words that will instantly solve all of your relationship problems overnight. Even the “big gun” relationship experts admit this.
For example, in Text Your Ex Back, texting master Michael Fiore says…
“Obviously I can’t write perfect texts for EVERY situation or EVERY person in the world (Wish I could.). If the specific language of what I give you or the formula I supply doesn’t sound quite right for you or your relationship, edit it and make it your own. I won’t be offended. The important part is that you FOLLOW THE STEPS that I give you and WORK THE SYSTEM.”
Texting your ex boyfriend back isn’t about sending one magical text. It’s about following a system that combines several different types of text messages, each with a unique purpose, that are sent over time to slowly open your ex to the idea of being with you again.
One thing I love about the Text Your Ex Back program is that it’s effective for both men and women. There are definitely some psychological differences between men and women you need to be aware of before you start texting, but Michael Fiore points out when you need to switch things up for one sex or the other which is a big help.
What To Text Your Ex Boyfriend – Making Contact And Moving Forward
As I discuss what to text your ex boyfriend, I’m going to assume you’ve been through a breakup and you haven’t been in touch with your ex for a while now. Your situation may be a bit different, but by making this general assumption I’ll be able to start at the beginning and walk you through a text message progression that gets a lot of praise for working rather well and it’s just damn cool.
I highly recommend picking up a copy of Text Your Ex Back to truly get the full benefit from this type of system.
Today I’m going to focus mainly on making initial contact and opening up the lines of communication.
Figuring out what to text your ex boyfriend starts with opening the lines of communication. This works best if you’ve been out of contact with your ex for at least a month.
If you haven’t been out of contact for that long, no worries. These text messages will still be great conversation starters, but just realize you may run into a bit more resistance and it may take more time to get your ex boyfriend to reply to you if there hasn’t been ample time for the emotions of the breakup to die down.
A great way to initiate the conversation is to use an “across the bow text” or a “curiosity pivot”. These are super cool texting techniques I learned from studying a couple of Michael Fiore’s texting guides, Text Your Ex Back and Text The Romance Back.
Here’s what Michael Fiore says about across the bow texts…
“An “Across The Bow” text is a shot in the dark. It’s that first text you send when you haven’t talked to or seen your ex in a while, and is designed to let them know that you’re thinking about them, that you don’t have any negative feelings towards them, and that you’re not horribly, horribly messed up over the break up (even if you actually are).”
There are a few different ways to craft these text messages which Michael explains really well, but if your ex boyfriend has a favorite sports team, an across the bow text might sound something like…
“I was just getting ready for bed when the sports scores came on the news. I saw the Lakers advanced to the NBA Finals. It made me smile thinking about how you’re probably stoked right now. Hope things are great.”
Notice how it creates a positive experience, but doesn’t put any actual pressure on your ex to respond. Your ex boyfriend can write back and start up a conversation if he wants to, but he won’t feel cornered to do so.
It’s very important to leave your ex an “out” in your first few text messages in case they aren’t quite ready to talk to you yet. People run from pressure and they don’t like to feel cornered, so you need to be aware of this as you plan what to text your ex boyfriend.
Once you’ve opened the lines of communication it’s a matter of slowly planting positive thoughts in your ex’s mind to remind him of what you once had and that you could have those same feelings and experiences again in a new, better relationship. This is done through a wide variety of texts which includes best of the relationship texts, jealousy texts, intimacy booster texts, emotional honesty texts, sensory expanders, texts to turn your ex on, and more, but those are topics for another day.
Where are you at with texting your ex boyfriend? Have you opened the lines of communication? Are you still not on speaking terms? Share your experiences by leaving a comment below.